What do you do with a partner that keeps saying they'll do better, but they just keep getting worse?
Leave 🫡
Use healthy communication, let them know how it makes you feel, and that if it doesn’t change you’re going to have to separate. Don’t keep giving the benefit of a doubt when it’s leading to disappointment, trust me if you don’t draw that line in the sand you’re going to be the one paying for it later.
I guess maybe it's time to set a deadline. We've had productive conversations multiple times over the last year. She just doesn't change her habits.
It’s hard to thread the needle, but ultimatums don’t really work either. Let her know you can’t maintain with those habits and if there’s no effort to address your needs then you’ll need space away from her.