Expecting dating apps to solve their loneliness is exactly the problem. Men need to be friends with one another
the male loneliness epidemic is about friendships. not romance. in that way it kind of is men's fault. a lot of you think giving a fuck about your friends is gay or something
This proves men are the problem
How?
There's no such thing as a male loneliness epidemic.
You don't need a relationship. Friendships help loneliness too. So yeah, still your fault
Male and female loneliness are not opposite problems. They usually grow from the same failures. Poor communication, weak trust, rigid expectations, and no ability to compromise when the boat rocks. Relationships depend less on gender than whether two people can bend without breaking. Rigidity leaves people isolated, bitter, and blaming dating culture for patterns they keep repeating. Eventually you realize it is mostly a maturity problem, and you just wish everyone the best while they figure it out.
You’re talking about loneliness stemming from failed relationships which is a problem too, but males are disproportionately affected by loneliness from relationships never even beginning. Average women and even below average women can have sex and relationships whenever they want. A man needs to be exceptional to even be able to occasionally land a date.
I included relationships that never begin. You’re treating access to sex or attention as access to trust, intimacy, and a healthy relationship. It isn’t. Men may struggle more to get through the door. Women may struggle more to find anyone safe and sincere behind it. Both become lonely for different reasons. Turning that into “women can have relationships whenever they want and men must be exceptional” is exactly the rigid immature worldview I was talking about. But hey, keep on being miserable and defeated by this world, it's your choice after all.
I’m trying my best out here. Access to options is access to all of it if you work through them. Lack of options means you have to work to create them. Men and women can both be lonely for different reasons; I think we’re mostly in agreement. When you call it a rigid immature worldview is where you lose me though because that’s my experience and the experience of nearly every man I know and have ever talked to. I’m not trying to be miserable, I actually want a girlfriend very badly and the cruel thing is it’s like the more badly you want one the harder it is to actually get one.
"oh no I'm the victim of a system my male predecessors built and i enable and benefit off of to this day. What do I do??. Let me just blame the women"
Do what women do - build communities of close friends so that your gf/wife isn't your only social connection. You'll be a lot less lonely if you have friends
Male entitlement epidemic
How is wanting a relationship entitlement?
You're blaming your loneliness on women because you think you're entitled access to them. If you are lonely, then make friends with other men. Nobody is entitled to a relationship.
To prove women are the problem, why don’t you catfish local women… you’re a genius who definitely isn’t the problem lol
That isn’t at all what I’m saying to do.
Lmao. Bunch of whinny ass bs and complaining. People are getting what they put in. Nothing. Which is exactly what both deserve.
Men and women both have their struggles when it comes to dating and relationships. It’s not a competition. And men’s rebuttal will always be “well women have more options, it’s easy for them” but fail to realize it’s quality over quantity. Having women lined up to fuck you without worrying about commitment is a dream to a man but not the same for a woman.
There isnt one
The ones who say that are heartless scum. They don't represent no ond
You do the same but as a woman then and see the kind of vile and disgusting messages we get. The threats or death and grape from men because we set boundaries in place and they become pissed off. Men are the reason they’re lonely. They expect everything with giving not even the bare minimum. They want sex and shit before a first date. They think they’re entitled to our bodies.
Or it’s people feeling entitled to other. Before dating apps were a thing I would get harassed by men while just out doing normal things. At 12 I was followed by grown men. At 14 I had a grown man offer to have sex with me and got angry and threatened me IN A STORE. Men are violent. Men have no control over their emotions.
Women have effectively signaled that the average man is unworthy of the average woman on dating apps. The result I would want you to see is how little attention, literally no matches, the average guy gets. It’s true women get a lot of bad guys but they have tons of options and they ignore most of them.
A true nice guy won’t have to say he’s a nice guy. Men who feel the need to scream that aren’t actually nice men. They play the part with motives.
