Is not wanting children vs. wanting children the ultimate deal breaker?
No, I am with and have been with men who want kids but are mature enough to understand they shouldn't have them. The deal breaker is expecting a woman to have kids regardless because of sexism.
Pretty much. Yup. My ex wanted kids. I did not. He thought my biological clock would eventually kick it. I remain a baby hater. It's funny how it's always men who wanna have kids. Yeah, you're not doing any of the work.
The onus is on people w hopes of having kids to communicate that as soon as possible. Save everyone's time. This "if you love someone they may change their mind" ideal that generations before held is literally copium for being irresponsibly untransparent abt standards. Edit: saying that as someone who wants kids and has been turned down bc of it- there's zero harm in that, it saves time which I appreciate.
Definitely. Those are extremely opposing desires/plans for life.
I will NEVER date someone who wants/already has kids
Yes! There is no compromise there. It’s a yes or no question
Yes, there's no way to compromise
Thats a pretty big core thing. Yea
100% and I’m married and we don’t have kids yet and I don’t know how much longer I’ll stay
I think it just depends on the person I think it’s important to understand where each person stands on having kids very early on so neither of you waste your time if you don’t like what your answers are.
Yes
No kids for me I got fixed
At my age I would prefer not having another child.
It is for me. Can’t be with someone who doesn’t align with that 🥲
You gat a smile that can warm up the New York cold
Yes. I don't have them.
That and being a republican
Yep, I truly think if someone deep down in their core doesn’t want to have children there is something abhorrently wrong with them and they must be avoided.
What if I want to live a relaxing life instead of being hounded by children for decades and lose all my money
I like how you assume you can’t do that with kids you literally make inside you lol. Crazy how brainwashed y’all have gotten.
If you're relaxed and not constantly worried about your children on some level youre not a parent.
Yes. Biggest thing for me, I can't be with someone who wants kids, biggest life ruining thing for me. On the flip side it wouldn't be fair to someone who wants kids to date me and remain childless forever
It should be. This is something that has no middle ground. Someone will always be unfulfilled
Or trapped
Absolutely
Yes I wouldn't date someone who wanted kids. I wouldn't be having kids especially not if they wanted them. Since it's my body and only I decide what's done with it.
Yeah, i don't want kids
I’m not sure if I want kids or not but my partner is a hard no and I have trouble with that :/ we’ve been dating a few years now :/ not sure what to do
Yes
I used to want them, but looking at how things are going, I'd feel bad bringing someone into all of... this utter shit.
Same :(
For me, yes. I already have 2 kids and made sure that I can't have more. The next person that I decide to be in a relationship with already has to have kids and not want any more.