I wish I could control my anger better than I do
Anger comes from reacting to things other people say that conflict with your beliefs. However if you don’t hold on to any beliefs then nothing can really anger you. If you choose your inner peace then most people will not become your enemies. A “safe space” attempts to recreate inner peace by setting up a boundary ahead of time that you mutually agree to both respect each other’s differences of opinions. However the real world doesn’t work like that. So how do you make it work in the real world? By not being attached to anything thoughts or ideas. Example: I don’t care about politics. So now nobody can draw me into an argument about abortion or trans rights or economic systems or policies or candidates, lol. I’m indifferent. Nobody tries to influence my vote because I don’t care. They tell me I should care, and then I say I get in trouble when I care about either side lol. I’m way happier not caring. Now I don’t have to worry myself with it. The world will carry on burning and flouris…
Safe Space is just a group I created here for people to join judgement free :) As for my anger personally, it doesn't come from anything anyone has said. It's from parenting my kids. When they act up and don't listen, it makes me angry
Ahhh. Well there are two different kinds of parents. One kind of parent will feed their kids and go to bed. The other parent will also feed their kids and go to bed. The difference is: one of those parents is identifying with the kid’s complaining, crying, and drama. The other parent is acknowledging this is part of a kid figuring the world out, and so doesn’t identify with the drama. Both parents take the same exact action, but the one who gets angry only creates extra exhaustion for themselves and trauma in the kid if they internalize that reaction
You are completely free to be angry. This is indeed a safe space lol. Not saying you can’t get angry. Just saying that getting angry doesn’t help you or the kid. Otherwise you’d probably be telling me you’re having a blast yelling and screaming lol. My friend yells at his cat for vomiting on his carpet in the basement. I tell him “The cat will do vomiting because cats do that by design lol. So if you value your carpet that much, keep your basement door closed. Then all will be much better!”. Instead he keeps his door open because he thinks that is too mean. Then he reiterates that the cat should “know better”. Then I look at him like he’s clearly not understanding the nature of things lol