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Figment · 11 hearts · 37 replies

I just got diagnosed with AudHD My life's struggles now make more sense I just wish I had one person in my day to day who understood me and validated my needs

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by Permutation · 2 hearts

Validate yourself by achieving stuff

by Figment · 0 hearts

That's the mindset of a narcissist. External achievement isn't the only thing worth validation.

by galaxy_dreamer · 0 hearts

That doesn’t actually work tho.

by mostlyperfect · 1 heart

Same here! You are not alone 🫶🏻

by 💍blue_wazoo🌈 · 1 heart

Im audhd as well! Fuck these other commenters lol, theyre so used to being surrounded by people like themselves, they cant empathize with the experience of feeling alone and cant recognize how much they benefit from community. Its definitely important to surround yourself with limeninded people, especially as u settle into your diagnoses.

by Figment · 0 hearts

I do feel so alone and alienated.

by RBF Life · 1 heart

Suck it up buttercup, life is no cake walk regardless of what neurowhatever you're diagnosed with. You gotta fit into the world, not the other way around.

by Figment · 0 hearts

So you want me to "suck up" my Autism and ADHD?

by RBF Life · 0 hearts

Suck up whatever needy needs it is you want someone to validate and get on with your life.

by Figment · 0 hearts

When you wrote that, did you think I haven't been trying that tactic first and foremost and for decades?

by azure_means · 0 hearts

Needing outside forces to validate your needs is the problem. Only you can validate yourself

by queer1 · 0 hearts

They'd like others to not dismiss their needs and struggles. To not say "you're exaggerating" or "that's not a real thing" or "it's not that bad" when they explain why something is difficult. If you experienced that 24/7, you'd feel the same way. No one wants to be told by others that their experiences aren't real and aren't important, especially by people who supposedly love you

by azure_means · 0 hearts

Too bad. No one owes you anything. And I DO feel that 24/7 as someone with ptsd. So go fuck yourself and your assumptions

by queer1 · 0 hearts

That's why they're saying they'd like this or it would be nice. Not that this must happen immediately, just that it would preferable

by BigTiddyPretty · 0 hearts

I have been too

by azure_initialise · 0 hearts

I couldn't hear this louder...!

by ProsaicEnigma · 0 hearts

Me too... Last year. 30. What kind of bullshit no one cared to notice? People in my life still don't believe me!

by Lone Juror · 0 hearts

Thought this was some new technology lmao

by Spoopy NBi Goth · 0 hearts

AuDHD here as well!

by Selfdestruct · 0 hearts

You and me both but its to easy to be taken advantage of and then forgotten when no longer useful